Assignment 13: Comparing Healthy and Unhealthy Relationships (due Week 26)

In your lifetime, you will build relationships with many people. We think of the word "relationship" as being a romantic relationship with a boyfriend or girlfriend, but we have lots of different relationships in our lives. We have family relationships, friend relationships, relationships with our co-workers, and even relationships with people we don't really know, but maybe we see them from time to time like a doctor or a certain cashier at the grocery store.

The most important thing is that the people you build relationships with are people who will treat you with respect. Positive, healthy relationships based on mutual respect, trust, open communication and love can contribute to your overall happiness and satisfaction with your life. But remember - other people can't MAKE you happy. Only you can make yourself happy by the choices you make and the people you choose to include in your life.

This exercise will help you think about what a healthy versus an unhealthy relationship looks like. Use this as an exercise and think about the relationships you have in your life. Are they healthy? Are they unhealthy? Could you improve them? Are they too damaged to resolve?

Your Task

In the chart below, you will see descriptions of UNHEALTHY relationships. Fill in the chart with a description of what a healthy relationship would look like.

Copy and Paste your work into the submission box and complete. If you would like to use Google docs, just copy and paste your document link (don't forget to make sure you have shared the document so that I have permission to open the document).

In an unhealthy relationship... But in a healthy relationship...
Example: You care for and focus on the other person, but neglect yourself. You take care of yourself and your needs as well as the other person's needs.
You feel pressured to change to please the other person. You don't feel like you can just "be yourself".
You are afraid to disagree with the other person or express your true opinions.
One person makes all the decisions for the both of you.
You are constantly making excuses for the other person's behavior and apologizing for their mistakes.
The other person uses physical violence to get what they want, or you need to resort to physical violence so your voice is finally heard.
You feel criticized, ridiculed and belittled by the other person.
You have to keep secrets from the other person because they "just wouldn't understand".
You have to share everything and do everything with the other person.
You are not allowed to have other friends because the other person is "your best friend" and you don't need anyone else.
You feel that the other person doesn't take your concerns seriously.